Every January, many of us make our New Year’s resolutions to get in shape; learn a new skill; spend less money – and so on. But this year, why not go deeper? As in, let’s focus on what’s really important in life, and who better to guide us than people who work in end-of-life care, hospice nurses? Below are some pearls of wisdom from a few of the amazing hospice nurses who work at the Visiting Nurse Association (VNA) of the Treasure Coast:
Remain focused on the present and enjoy the simple pleasures of life by expressing gratitude.
Don’t let time go by without enjoying the little things or the wonderful people that cross
your path.
I learned from many patients, it’s important to have those special relationships while you still can, not when you’re sick and family doesn’t have time to come see you. So today is my last day with VNA hospice. I moved from NY 40 years ago. This Sunday I am moving back to be near my siblings, kids and grandchildren.
I want to be around for life with them: births, deaths – you know, life stuff.
1. The Power of Kindness, No Matter the Day
One of the most important lessons we learn as hospice nurses is the impact of kindness. No matter what kind of day we’re having, a simple act of kindness can make all the difference to someone. Whether it’s a patient, a grieving family member, or even a stranger at the store, we’re reminded every day that everyone is fighting battles we may never see. A smile, a kind word, or just a moment of patience can bring comfort and help someone spread the kindness forward.
2. Living Fully in the Present Moment
End-of-life care teaches us to be present. Our patients are often facing their last days, and in those moments, they remind us of the importance of appreciating the here and now. We learn that life isn’t about the endless to-do lists or the stress of the future—it’s about being fully engaged in the moment and finding joy in the small, everyday experiences. It’s about meeting people where they are in the moment and without passing judgment.
3. The Importance of Family and Connection
Though patients may endure physical pain in their final days, it’s the family members who often experience the deepest emotional anguish. Hospice care teaches us the value of relationships—of being there for one another, of sharing our love, and of holding space for each other’s grief. The deep bonds we form with our patients’ families show us that connection is what truly matters in life. A manager said to me, “Although death is something we go through a ton of times in this job, the family only goes through it once with their loved one.” That phrase continues to resonate with me and is a reminder that building connections with people is so important to remember.
4. Embracing Vulnerability and Acceptance
Hospice care often involves confronting the inevitable, and through this, we come to understand the power of acceptance. As nurses, we are privileged to witness the courage of patients as they face the end of their lives with grace. This vulnerability is a powerful reminder that it’s okay not to have all the answers, that we don’t need to be “strong” all the time, and that accepting life’s limitations can bring peace.
5. Reflection of our own lives
Working with patients at the end of their life often prompts reflection on our own lives. We ask ourselves what truly matters and what legacy we want to leave. For many of us, this work is a constant reminder to live authentically, prioritize relationships, and engage in what brings us joy.
