Grieving the loss of a loved one is never easy, but the holidays can make the process feel especially overwhelming. It’s a time when the world seems to be celebrating, but for those who are grieving, it can feel like an emotional burden. What might have felt like a manageable day-to-day routine suddenly becomes a reminder of what’s missing. As one woman shared, “I felt like a darkness descend and envelop me. I found it difficult to get out of bed.”
That’s the raw reality of grief. Sometimes, it’s not just the sadness of loss that overwhelms us but also the weight of societal expectations to be cheerful during a time when all you feel like doing is retreating. The sights of Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, or Christmas decorations, or invitations to festive gatherings may trigger feelings of isolation and despair.
If you’re going through this, remember, it’s okay to feel the way you do. As Melissa King, the Director of Bereavement Services at VNA, explains, “The holidays can be challenging outside of grief. Adding grief to the mix brings another layer of difficulty. Be kind to yourself and do whatever you feel comfortable doing. It’s okay to say ‘no,’” she reassures.
The pressure to participate in holiday celebrations when you’re not ready can feel like an emotional obligation, but it’s important to honor your feelings and take things at your own pace. The holidays may be tough, but you don’t have to face them alone. There are resources and support systems available that can help you navigate your grief during this time.
The VNA offers public bereavement support groups open to anyone in the community, whether or not they’ve been served by VNA Hospice. These groups provide a safe space for individuals to share their experiences, express their emotions, and connect with others who understand the grief journey.
If you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, below are a few resources and support options that the VNA offers. If you’re interested in any of the VNA grief groups below, you must sign up by calling 772-567-5551, ext. 5171.
VNA Experiencing Grief Groups
- Mondays at 5:30 pm (virtual).
- Tuesdays at 2:00 pm at Our Savior Lutheran Church (1850 6th Ave, Vero Beach, FL 32960)
This twelve-week group offers foundational grief support for those early in the grief process.
VNA Remembrance Group
- 1st Wednesday of each month, 2:00-3:00 pm (virtual)
This group focuses on the specific needs of those nearing the one-year anniversary of their loved one’s death. It provides space for remembrance and education about anniversary reactions.
For children in Indian River County, VNA offers Camp Chrysalis, a bereavement-focused camp designed for kids ages 5-13. The camp is held at various times throughout the year and combines fun activities, music, and therapeutic sessions to help children process their emotions and understand the grief they are experiencing. You can find out more about Camp Chrysalis by calling VNA’s Bereavement Department at 772-567-5551, ext. 5171.
In addition to Camp Chrysalis, VNA is now offering another bereavement program for children, “Kid Connections,” which is led by VNA Pediatric Bereavement Counselor, Katie Fesenmaier. To date, activities have included an afternoon of painting pottery at the Painted Frog studio and a fun evening at the Skate Factory, both in Vero Beach. Katie also hosts a monthly children’s support group at the main library in Vero Beach for first through fifth graders. For more information about “Kid Connections,” contact Katie directly at kfesenmaier@vnatc.com or by calling her at 772.567.5551, ext. 0397.
Additionally, there are several other supportive communities for those navigating grief:
- Compassionate Friends: An organization for people who have lost a child. Visit www.compassionatefriends.org for more information.
- Grief Share: Faith-based support groups facilitated at various churches. Visit www.griefshare.org for more details.
The holidays are hard, but you don’t have to go through them alone. By reaching out for support and being gentle with yourself, you can find moments of peace amidst the grief.
